Since becoming a first time mom over 6 months ago I've let a whole bunch of stuff make me crazy. Sleep, or lack thereof, sniffles, rashes, temperature, crying fits. The one thing that I never was really crazy over was milestones. I always just figured that she'd do it when she was ready and if that was early great, if not no biggie. I mean eventually she'd sit up. How many 10 year olds do you know that need a pillow to sit?
Tuesday, December 29, 2009
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Sunday, December 27, 2009
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Saturday, December 26, 2009
Ok, so I've been a slacker blogger this month, but between Thanksgiving and Christmas I go into outright survivor mode. Shopping, Christmas Cards, wrapping, baking (or attempting to bake), calling family and friends, and cooking is enough to keep me busy but add in a full time job and a 6 month old to take care of I'm surprised I survived the season. However, it is my favorite time of year and every aforementioned holiday chore was pretty fun, except the baking because no matter how often I try to bake from scratch it doesn't come close to Pillsbury!
Posted by Melissa G. at 1:52 PM
Wednesday, December 16, 2009
I've written before on how I feel there's a lot of competition between mothers for milestones, sleeping, etc and for the most part I haven't bought into it (for the most part). However, I was at a cafe in Park Slope the other day with a friend enjoying a latte and I took a glance around and do you know what I saw...
Posted by Melissa G. at 2:59 AM
Sunday, December 13, 2009
A friend of mine recently asked me when Andy and I planned on having another baby. Once I quit choking on my hummus I really started to think about it. Do I even want another baby? I had always assumed that I would want to have a decent sized family, two or three kids. However, after experiencing motherhood first hand and remembering how difficult those first few months were, I'm not sure I want to go through that again.
Posted by Melissa G. at 5:34 AM
Sunday, December 6, 2009
Last week at work I was sorting through the Teacher Mailbox I keep in the classroom where the kids leave their worksheets, notes, and drawings for me to collect, when I came across a poem from a student in my class. He came to America from Uzbekistan when he was 6 and didn't speak a word of English. I remember his kindergarten teacher saying that he cried everyday for 3 months. This is the poem he wrote me.
Posted by Melissa G. at 7:33 AM
Saturday, December 5, 2009
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Saturday, November 28, 2009
Monday, November 23, 2009
The road to sleeping through the night is often a bumpy one. Days of progress and then a snag, weeks of success and then a snafu, months of sweet sleep and then the inevitable hiccup. The day before Isabella turned 4 months she started sttn. I'll tell you my secret...once she hit 2 months I told her everyday that if she didn't start sleeping straight through the night by the time she was 4 months old I would sell her on e-bay. She got my point.
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Saturday, November 21, 2009
Ok, so I'm a terrible blogger, but this week has been pretty hellish...but more on this later. On Thursday my baby turned 5 months old! I can't even believe it.
Posted by Melissa G. at 2:43 PM
Sunday, November 15, 2009
When that jello covered baby is ripped from your loins, s/he doesn't just leave an empty womb. They leave behind a big whopping ball of guilt. Now, I've felt guilty pre-baby. I've lied to my parents, told my friend her dress didn't make her look fat, and neglected to tell a stranger that she had lipstick on her teeth, but nothing compares to post-baby guilt.
Posted by Melissa G. at 5:53 AM
Wednesday, November 11, 2009
Before I became a parent I thought that I'd be the one in charge. I'd decide the rules, rewards, and consequences. Ha! Little did I know that when they brought out my teeny tiny baby girl that what I was actually getting was a teeny tiny dictator! Here are some of the rules and regulations according to one Ms. Isabella.
Posted by Melissa G. at 5:06 AM
Sunday, November 8, 2009
I think I may have Alzheimer's Junior, which you may have heard as the phenomenon called "Mommy Brain". I was forgetful during pregnancy (Pregnancy Brain), but months of sleep deprivation will effect you in ways that are both funny and a little bit pathetic.
Posted by Melissa G. at 7:01 AM
Wednesday, November 4, 2009
So if you're not familiar with Josiah's Mommy over at http://myconfessionsasafirsttimemom.blogspot.com/ (sorry not clicky, mac) you should really go check her out. She posted an incredibly honest post about her experience with PPD and even though I was never diagnosed with PPD I can relate to her experience and was inspired to share my own.
Posted by Melissa G. at 2:09 PM
Sunday, November 1, 2009
There are a few things Isabella doesn't like: Christenings, solid food, and sleepovers. Let me tell you a scary Halloween story.
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Tuesday, October 27, 2009
You ever have one of those days that just sucks from the second you open your eyes to the second you close them? That was my day today. It all started from the moment my alarm went off at 6:10 because I heard rain. I didn't know it was supposed to rain. That can tack on an extra 30 minutes onto my already hour long commute.
Posted by Melissa G. at 6:46 PM
Sunday, October 25, 2009
No joke, she might be harboring an otherworldly demon behind those chubby cheeks. Today was her Christening. We were very worried because it took place right smack dab in the middle of nap time and apparently the Catholic Church doesn't feel that my daughter's very delicate nap schedule warrants a time change for all the Baptisms in the congregation...whatever.
Posted by Melissa G. at 5:30 PM
Everyday Isabella grows more and more into herself and I'm noticing some distinct personality traits that are starting to form.
Posted by Melissa G. at 4:36 AM
Thursday, October 22, 2009
Whenever you comment on someone's blog in the little box at the bottom it says "Choose an Identity" and it made me think of all the identities we have and all the roles we play. Before I was a mother I was wild. I'd get dressed up every weekend and go out dancing with my girlfriends at trendy bars and clubs in Manhattan or I'd go see a play and grab dinner with Andy or maybe drop half a pay check on a shopping spree. My days were jam packed, coffee with coworkers after school, meeting up for happy hour with my girlfriends, sex in the middle of the day on the washing machine.
Posted by Melissa G. at 6:08 PM
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
My little girl is 4 months old. Well, yesterday she was 4 months old, but I had company so I was unable to blog. I can't believe how drastically my life has changed in 4 months. I remember when my Saturdays would end at 5am, not start at 5am!
Posted by Melissa G. at 3:22 PM
Saturday, October 17, 2009
So it seems to me that there's been some mom-on-mom crime going on. As women we should support each other and try to raise each other up. However, this is not the case. Women see each other as competition. Competition for men, jobs, even as moms. We even dress for each other (who else would envy my Betsey Johnson shoes?)
Posted by Melissa G. at 6:35 PM
Monday, October 12, 2009
We had a baby shower for a coworker on Friday and they passed out these little index cards where you're supposed to write out advice to the mommy-to-be, although how they think I could impart my wisdom on a 3.5 by 5 inch card is unfathomable. Here are a few of the tips that I would have liked to impart on the about-to-be mommies of the world.
Posted by Melissa G. at 7:00 PM
Saturday, October 10, 2009
Well we did it. We have effectively demummified our little girl. After almost 4 months of swaddling to sleep, which worked like a charm, our little chunker was getting too big and too strong and was breaking out of it. She'd wake up like 3 or 4 times a night because she broke out of her swaddle and we had to reswaddle her. It didn't matter what kind of swaddler we used or how tight we bound her up, she'd always escape. We had had enough.
Posted by Melissa G. at 6:28 PM
Thursday, October 8, 2009
Sure Angelina Jolie was famous before Brad Pitt, but she really blew up once the tabloids snarked her as being a home wrecker. Jessica Simpson hadn't had a record in a while but everyone was talking about her when a papparazzo snapped a picture of her where she looked fat (which she is not). Looks like I've got my very own snarker. Here is the comment that was left by an anonymous poster on my gemini post.
Posted by Melissa G. at 6:18 AM
Monday, October 5, 2009
I remember when I first told my cousin Lisa I was pregnant. After the squeals and hugs the first thing she asked me was my due date. I told her I was due on June 27th. "You better hope you don't go early," she said. She was the mother of two so I leaned in to hear her motherly words of wisdom.
Posted by Melissa G. at 5:35 PM
Sunday, October 4, 2009
There are a few things that hold true across gender, creed, and race. It's kind of like the universe's way of keeping us all in check.
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Thursday, October 1, 2009
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Tuesday, September 29, 2009
Since I'm so crabby today (huge work load, lots of traffic, and a still congested baby) I've decided to unload here all of the, unrelated, things that get under my skin.
Posted by Melissa G. at 5:49 PM
Saturday, September 26, 2009
Ok, so there are some reflexes that babies are born with that help them survive, like the sucking reflex, I get it. There also born with the startle reflex, which I'm sure serves some purpose in the greater scheme of things, but all it seems to me to do is wake up a perfectly sweet sleeping baby. But I bet you may not have known that babies are born with other reflexes too, although you may not find them in any textbook.
Posted by Melissa G. at 4:27 PM
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
- You have a winter bush in the summertime (my lady bits are a hot mess right now).
- When faced with the decision to take a shower or go to bed 15 minutes earlier, sometimes early to bed wins out. This means that somedays I go to work dirty and stinky.
- You've worn your hair in a ponytail for the past month and now your head has a dent in it.
- You won't wear any of your nice clothes because they'll just wind up drooled/spit up/or pooped on.
- You can't finish a blog post because you're interrupted by cries...gotta go.
Posted by Melissa G. at 2:28 PM
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
Well over a year ago (almost a year and a half if my foggy brain serves me right), when Andy and I first started TTC I happened upon the GP message board on The Bump and met some of the most awesome girls that I've ever had the privilege of knowing, IRL or otherwise. Over the past year we've shared so many aspects of our lives, getting pregnant, surviving pregnancy, going through labor, and having our babies (for the most part), but not only that. We've talked about our husbands, friendships, work, we've never met but I want to take a minute to tell each one of them why they are so special to me, because they deserve it.
Posted by Melissa G. at 6:22 PM
Monday, September 21, 2009
So for the past couple of days Isabella has been really out of sorts, crying, not napping well and waking up a lot at night. She doesn't usually cry a lot, except when she's tired or hungry. It's very rare that she screams for most of the day. I just assumed that it was either a growth spurt or that God was getting back at me for cheating on my science test in third grade (sorry about that), but Saturday night I could hear how congested she would and she wouldn't sleep more then 30 minutes on her back so I let her sleep upright on me that night while I kind of slumped on the couch.
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Saturday, September 19, 2009
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Friday, September 18, 2009
That's Isabella's new nickname. I get glowing reports from my Mom and Andy all day, but the second I walk through the door it's fuss pot city. From what I read, babies have a fussy time in the day and hers just happens to be at 5:00pm. It's so difficult to sit through tons of traffic, work my ass off all day, sit in more traffic to come home to a crying baby. It's really beginning to take a toll on me. It's almost to the point that I hope for traffic so she's napping by the time I come home so I can decompress and not be a balled up wreck.
Posted by Melissa G. at 4:18 PM
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
I've read The Happiest Baby On The Block, Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child, Jo Frost's Confident Baby Care, The No Cry Sleep Solution, and The Baby Book. I swear if you put all of those authors in one room you'd get different advice and different opinions from each one of them. It's enough to drive you batty.
Posted by Melissa G. at 5:21 PM
Saturday, September 12, 2009
I'm sorry but it's so true. Every father of a baby that I speak too, which is basically anyone who looks like they have a baby, have a baby in the family, or might have been a baby at some point, (hey I'm on a quest here) will tell me horror stories about how their kid didn't sleep through the night until they were 6 months or how they cried for hours and hours on end or how it took the Roman army to get their kid to sleep at night or how they swore up and down that they would never have another baby.
Posted by Melissa G. at 4:26 AM
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
"I'm so fat!" "My skin is disgusting." "This outfit makes my hips look huge." "I look like a transvestite." "My hair is so flat." These are the words verbatim that echoed in the hotel room I shared with my friends for my cousin Christie's birthday. Each girl looked at herself in the mirror and began to berate and humiliate herself as she scrutinized each angle and exacerbated every minute flaw.
Posted by Melissa G. at 5:42 PM
Saturday, September 5, 2009
I think what I need to do is just accept that Isabella is a tiny little person, an infant who wakes up a lot. To eat, to be soothed, whatever. She's not supposed to be sleeping 12 hours a night (although if your kid does this you are mighty lucky). The truth of it is, most babies don't STTN and I've accepted that. Is it fun? No. Is it frustrating? Yes. Am I tired? You betcha. But when push comes to shove, I'm her mother and mothering doesn't stop at bedtime.
Posted by Melissa G. at 5:33 PM
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
And good nights and bad nights. It seems like we're in the middle of a bad stretch. Isabella went from sleeping 6-8 hours a nap and taking several hour naps in the daytime to sleeping 4.5 hours and fighting every nap. It's just really frustrating because I know she's capable of sleeping longer she just won't. I've tried upping the amount she gets in her bottle, I've tried mylicon drops, I've tried begging God and bargaining with the devil. I always said I was anti cry it out, but if this doesn't resolve, once she's four months and able to self soothe, I think I'm going to have to reconsider.
Posted by Melissa G. at 4:06 AM
Sunday, August 30, 2009
When I got pregnant I knew that life was about to change, what I didn't realize was how much it was going to change. I obviously knew that my sleeping habits would change. Gone are the days of grabbing my purse and going. Now it's: Wait for the baby to be fed and changed, pack up the diaper bag, get the car seat ready, and hope she's in a good mood.
Posted by Melissa G. at 6:37 PM
Friday, August 28, 2009
Isabella was in such a great sleeping pattern. She'd take a few hour long naps everyday and then sleep from 9-9 with one feeding at 4am. It was perfect. However Wednesday night she slept for 4 hours and then woke up every 3 like clockwork. Last night she slept for 4 hours and then woke up every HOUR. I was ready to pull my hair out.
Posted by Melissa G. at 7:06 AM
Thursday, August 27, 2009
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Monday, August 24, 2009
Today Isabella had her first shots =( It was so sad. My poor baby girl had no idea what was coming. After the first shot her face scrunched up and she let out a wail that was unlike anything I've ever heard. It was heartbreaking. I cried a little too. I thought I wouldn't want to see it, but I didn't want to leave her there so I toughed it out. However, I do have to say that once it was over, she was ok. She calmed down and I even managed to get a little smile out of her when I was getting her dressed.
Posted by Melissa G. at 1:21 PM
Saturday, August 22, 2009
Isabella is growing up so fast and she's quickly forming her very own personality. She likes to be held and snuggled only to a degree and then she likes to kick back in her boppy and hang, but she wants you to still talk to her. I think she's going to be independent.
Posted by Melissa G. at 6:28 AM
Thursday, August 20, 2009
So this post is one day late but I had family over yesterday for a game night and I didn't have time to post Isabella's 2 month birthday pic, but I did remember to send out a picture message! I can't believe it's been two months already. What changes these past months have brought. Great changes: smiles, coos, and snuggles and not so great changes: loss of sleep, poopy diapers, and spit up. It's definitely been a roller coaster! We took her to the pool yesterday for the first time and she loved it. She splashed around and smiled. My cousin, her husband, and their 18 month old daughter were there too and it was lots of fun to see the girls together because I know that our families will do a lot of fun things together.
Posted by Melissa G. at 6:02 AM
Sunday, August 16, 2009
My sister Meaghan, my friends Brooke and Rosa all went to the O.A.R concert at Madison Square Garden last night and Andy was on baby duty. It rocked! We were sitting in a luxury box which means free food and beer. Afterwards we decided to go for drinks, although we were already half in the bag. Now I grew up in the city so I'm used to the subway, ya know, metro cards, turn styles, trains that run every 15 minutes. However now that I live in Jersey we had to take NJ transit which runs on a schedule. So our options were 1:40 am or 5:15 am. 1:40 is a little earlier then a night out usually winds up to be but we were really out of options.
Posted by Melissa G. at 7:03 PM
Friday, August 14, 2009
I was thumbing through a fashion magazine, which I usually don't do because of two reasons:
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Thursday, August 13, 2009
Ok so let's get a little down and dirty today. After my my doctor cleared me for sex Andy and I were ready to go, but I was a little bit nervous. After all, it had been 7 weeks since there was anything going on down there and maybe even longer because my baby brain can't remember when we last had pregnant sex, not that third trimester sex is hot in any sense of the word. If you don't believe me hold a watermelon against your belly when you're trying to bump uglies.
Posted by Melissa G. at 8:19 AM