Monday, October 12, 2009

Motherly Advice

We had a baby shower for a coworker on Friday and they passed out these little index cards where you're supposed to write out advice to the mommy-to-be, although how they think I could impart my wisdom on a 3.5 by 5 inch card is unfathomable. Here are a few of the tips that I would have liked to impart on the about-to-be mommies of the world.

Don't buy Miniwear clothes. They have no "give".

Don't compare babies. Some babies will roll at 2 months and others not until 4 months, some will sleep for 9 hours and others only 3. Your baby will hit their milestones when they're ready. Things have a way of evening out. So at 3am when you feel like you're losing it, just tell yourself that those "perfect" babies will be horrendous teenagers. (This may or may not be true, but it makes you feel better!)

You will cry. Sometimes more then the baby. You will cry out of frustration, happiness, sheer exhaustion, loneliness, and anxiety. It's ok to cry, don't try to hide it.

Be consistent. You may try one tactic to soothe your baby or help her sleep but it may not work right away. Give everything at least a week to see if it works before you abandon it.

Follow your child's lead. He or she will guide you into making the right decisions.

Don't be a hero. Take all the help you can get. Let you're mother-in-law, sister, friend, or neighbor lend a helping hand. They may not do things exactly the way you do, but that's ok.

Trying to clean your house while you have a baby is futile. The dishes will go unwashed, the floor unmopped, the clothes unwashed, but that's ok! Accepting that you can't do it all is fine. Take out and a few crumbs never hurt anyone. Do what you can and let the rest go. Because before you know it your tiny baby will be old enough to do the dishes himself!

A glass of wine at the end of the day can do wonders for morale.

Get out as often as you can. Time with your husband or friends sans baby will keep you sane and help you to appreciate your little one that much more.

Finally, disregard everything I just wrote. No one, not me (in my infinite wisdom), your mom, your doctor, or even your husband, knows what's best for your baby more then you do. People will be doling out advice left and right, much of it conflicting, if something doesn't feel right to you leave it be. All babies are different and what works for one might not work for another.


Lynn from For Love or Funny said...

It's fun to read your adventures in new mommyhood...brings back so many good memories!

Visiting from SITS!

Mrs.Andreazza said...

Great advice! I look forward to not following it soon ;) No really, you make some great points!

pk said...

Very sound advice! Your blog (and header!) is adorable. Visiting from SITS. Hope you're having a good day...
pk @ Room Remix

*Bee* said...

Amen! :)

Neuffj said...

always a pleasure, and ditto... I can't wait to not follow it sometime in the future!

K a b l o o e y said...

Hi there! Thanks for finding me via SITS; happy to come visit you back. I have to give you BIG PROPS: you have a job, a baby not sleeping the night and you are blogging? That's crazily impressive. And you make sense! Seriously -- do you require sleep? Because my kid's first 6 months, while really amazing, are a big blur. And I wasn't working a job besides "mom". Great job all around.

And I swaddled for 5 months, but by the end there were safety pins and the Miracle swaddling blanket involved. I straight-jacketed her!

Lily Anne's World said...

E! Can you be my psychologist for the day! I totally can relate. I am so tired of people telling me about what to do, should be doing, and how to do it. OMG...driving me crazy!

Thanks for putting this in writing...I know I am not crazy

Melinda said...

It's been a while since I've been in the baby phase, but your tips are excellent. I think I also wish someone would have told me to relax and not think I had to do everything perfectly. It took a lot more years for me to learn that lesson!

Thanks for visiting my blog this week!

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