We had a baby shower for a coworker on Friday and they passed out these little index cards where you're supposed to write out advice to the mommy-to-be, although how they think I could impart my wisdom on a 3.5 by 5 inch card is unfathomable. Here are a few of the tips that I would have liked to impart on the about-to-be mommies of the world.
Monday, October 12, 2009
Don't buy Miniwear clothes. They have no "give".
Don't compare babies. Some babies will roll at 2 months and others not until 4 months, some will sleep for 9 hours and others only 3. Your baby will hit their milestones when they're ready. Things have a way of evening out. So at 3am when you feel like you're losing it, just tell yourself that those "perfect" babies will be horrendous teenagers. (This may or may not be true, but it makes you feel better!)
You will cry. Sometimes more then the baby. You will cry out of frustration, happiness, sheer exhaustion, loneliness, and anxiety. It's ok to cry, don't try to hide it.
Be consistent. You may try one tactic to soothe your baby or help her sleep but it may not work right away. Give everything at least a week to see if it works before you abandon it.
Follow your child's lead. He or she will guide you into making the right decisions.
Don't be a hero. Take all the help you can get. Let you're mother-in-law, sister, friend, or neighbor lend a helping hand. They may not do things exactly the way you do, but that's ok.
Trying to clean your house while you have a baby is futile. The dishes will go unwashed, the floor unmopped, the clothes unwashed, but that's ok! Accepting that you can't do it all is fine. Take out and a few crumbs never hurt anyone. Do what you can and let the rest go. Because before you know it your tiny baby will be old enough to do the dishes himself!
A glass of wine at the end of the day can do wonders for morale.
Get out as often as you can. Time with your husband or friends sans baby will keep you sane and help you to appreciate your little one that much more.
Finally, disregard everything I just wrote. No one, not me (in my infinite wisdom), your mom, your doctor, or even your husband, knows what's best for your baby more then you do. People will be doling out advice left and right, much of it conflicting, if something doesn't feel right to you leave it be. All babies are different and what works for one might not work for another.
Posted by Melissa G. at 7:00 PM