Motherhood has changed me in ways I can't even describe (or ways that I've described to death), but I don't think I've ever paid much attention to how it has changed Andy, my husband. So I was interested to see how he would answer a few questions about fatherhood. And, to my surprise, he agreed. I already debriefed him on how this blog works. No sugar coating, no puppies, no rainbows. Brutal honesty. Let's see what he has to say.
Thursday, January 21, 2010
Me: What is the most challenging aspect of fatherhood?
Andy: Trying to juggle everything together. Finding time for her, working, going to the gym and doing things that I enjoy. I mean I still do things that I enjoy but not like it was before. It's hard to fit everything in.
Me: What is the best part of being a dad?
Andy: Her smile. It can melt your heart.
Me: What was the biggest surprise about becoming a dad?
Andy: How hard it is to get her to nap. I don't understand why she needs dramatic rituals to fall asleep. It scares me when I have to put her down for a nap.
Me: What's your least favorite baby chore?
Andy: Putting her down for naps. That's why I try to wheel and deal with you.
Me: How has having a baby effected our marriage?
Andy: Sometimes it's stressful but overall I think it's the same. It hasn't effected it too much. We cut to the chase and don't bicker about stupid shit. You never keep your feelings in.
Me: What's the worst part of fatherhood?
Andy: That I can't do what I want when I want. I miss waking up after a midnight shift and I watch Sports Center, drink coffee, eat breakfast and do what I want. I only had to take care of myself.
Me: Why don't you read my blog?
Andy: I live your blog.
Me: What are your thoughts on the first three months?
Andy: So stressful. Such a complete overhaul. I was trying to take care of her and take care of you because you were such a wreck. You took things really hard and I didn't know how to handle it or what to do for you.
Me: Am I better now?
Andy: A thousand times better. But sometimes you still worry too much about spending enough time with her. Maybe you can put her down for all her naps to spend some extra time together?
Ok, so some of the answers I expected and some I didn't. He's a lot more mellow than I am though. I'm a bit high strung. So there you have it...an interview with dad.
Posted by Melissa G. at 5:11 PM