Thursday, January 21, 2010

An Interview With Dad

Motherhood has changed me in ways I can't even describe (or ways that I've described to death), but I don't think I've ever paid much attention to how it has changed Andy, my husband. So I was interested to see how he would answer a few questions about fatherhood. And, to my surprise, he agreed. I already debriefed him on how this blog works. No sugar coating, no puppies, no rainbows. Brutal honesty. Let's see what he has to say.

Me: What is the most challenging aspect of fatherhood?

Andy: Trying to juggle everything together. Finding time for her, working, going to the gym and doing things that I enjoy. I mean I still do things that I enjoy but not like it was before. It's hard to fit everything in.

Me: What is the best part of being a dad?

Andy: Her smile. It can melt your heart.

Me: What was the biggest surprise about becoming a dad?

Andy: How hard it is to get her to nap. I don't understand why she needs dramatic rituals to fall asleep. It scares me when I have to put her down for a nap.

Me: What's your least favorite baby chore?

Andy: Putting her down for naps. That's why I try to wheel and deal with you.

Me: How has having a baby effected our marriage?

Andy: Sometimes it's stressful but overall I think it's the same. It hasn't effected it too much. We cut to the chase and don't bicker about stupid shit. You never keep your feelings in.

Me: What's the worst part of fatherhood?

Andy: That I can't do what I want when I want. I miss waking up after a midnight shift and I watch Sports Center, drink coffee, eat breakfast and do what I want. I only had to take care of myself.

Me: Why don't you read my blog?

Andy: I live your blog.

Me: What are your thoughts on the first three months?

Andy: So stressful. Such a complete overhaul. I was trying to take care of her and take care of you because you were such a wreck. You took things really hard and I didn't know how to handle it or what to do for you.

Me: Am I better now?

Andy: A thousand times better. But sometimes you still worry too much about spending enough time with her. Maybe you can put her down for all her naps to spend some extra time together?

Ok, so some of the answers I expected and some I didn't. He's a lot more mellow than I am though. I'm a bit high strung. So there you have interview with dad.


Christina said...

thats a good idea. sounds like you guys are adjusting well to parenthood. you will get used to the sacrifice. It just takes time, time time. The more time that passes the more it becomes normal.....the naps, the sleep, the not having time for yourself, etc. But then you also start having more time for yourself because they are mobile. Anyhow, he sounds like a cool dad :)

Derek and Stefani said...

That's a great idea :) I liked his answer about reading your blog, my husband NEVER reads mine and it bugs me because I pour my heart out on here!

Mrs.Andreazza said...

How fun! Love hearing the man's perspective. Thanks for sharing!

Sororitygirlgonewife said...

This made me smile, and I think it's an amazing idea! I'm totally doing this for DH.

mtendere said...

Great idea. I think my husband would agree with yours on quite a bit. Thanks for sharing!

Megan aka Mommy, Mom, Honey, The Boss... said...

Great idea! Love the honest answers! So nice to see the other side of things. My husband has no interest in reading my blog either :) He says he does not want to know how I look at things anymore than I may bitch about them at home lol!


Laura said...

You're so cute! Love this idea!!! :)

Sarah said...

This is so sweet! I should give this a try with my hubs.

K a b l o o e y said...

That was great. And you guys sound like you're really communicating well. I love that he's able to say straight up that the first 3 months were hard and that he didn't know how to help you. Just for perspective, I've got to remind you that you have a baby and a blog with actual complete sentences, so I think you're head and shoulders above where I was.

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