Sunday, February 28, 2010

Milestone Mania

The first few months of Isabella's life the first question out of everyone's mouth was "How is she sleeping?" which literally made me want to claw their eyes out. Questions that also illicit this reaction are "How's the diet going?" and "Did you hand in that paperwork?" But now as we move into a new stage of development, the newest question is, "Oh is she crawling/walking?"

If I have one saving grace it's that I'm not obsessed with milestones. If she hits them early I'm proud. If she hits them late, I don't worry. She didn't roll back to belly until she was 6.5 months old, but she started sitting up at 5.5 months so I figure it just always evens out. It doesn't bother me that she's not crawling. Less chasing around for me! She'll do it when she's ready.

But, believe it or not, a lot of people get really balled up about milestones. Like badges of honor that they're good parents. I really think that this just fuels the competitiveness between mother's. We should share our kid's milestones out of pride, not to put other people down or make them feel like their kid isn't good enough. That they're not good enough.

I won't focus on what Isabella can't do (walk, talk, stand, crawl), but what she can do. Lift her arms up to help me dress her. Roll around like a lunatic on the floor. Pull herself up to a stand. Go from sitting to belly and belly to sitting. Give sweet wet kisses. Kind of clap hands.

Walking, talking, rolling, eating, it comes in time. I have no 3rd graders who can't do that stuff, so we can all relax

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Desi said...

nicely said :)

The Cookinglady And Friends said...

Thanks for stopping by my blog and visiting. Hope you enjoy the cake.

Quixotic said...

Absolutely!! Milestones are to be celebrated as another step forward for child and parents, not as a basis for competition! No-one ever gets a High School diploma with "Walked at 10mths" on it, so we all need to chill out and celebrate our kids as they are, and whereever on the path they are.

The Blonde Duck said...

Popped in from SITS to say hi!

Joy said...

Well said! Your Isabella is adorable.

Stopping by from SITS roll call :o)

bluewhitelife said...

Very well said :) My cousin just got home with her new daughter (like yesterday) and her daughter has night and day confused, so I'm sure Isabella has improved from there :)

Jenny said...

What a well written and thoughtful post! Visiting you from SITS!

I'm a new follower!

Angie S said...

Enjoy every moment...that is the main thing I have learned being a mom!

I got/get annoyed with questions too. I don't care what other people think!

You have a great outlook :)

Therese said...

I get pretty jacked up about Chubs gaining new skills. I share your attitude about milestones, to be celebrated not stressed about! Babies are all so different, no need to stress and ruin these brief moments that will be gone so quickly.
Though I do wonder if she is going to be the only kid in kindergarten with only two teeth ;)

Desi said...

Oh,totally off topic...but I'm adding your button to my blog :)

Sarah said...

So true!! And well put. People need to get over themselves. Their baby is not a genius. BTW - I'm going to add your button to my blog!!

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