The first few months of Isabella's life the first question out of everyone's mouth was "How is she sleeping?" which literally made me want to claw their eyes out. Questions that also illicit this reaction are "How's the diet going?" and "Did you hand in that paperwork?" But now as we move into a new stage of development, the newest question is, "Oh is she crawling/walking?"
If I have one saving grace it's that I'm not obsessed with milestones. If she hits them early I'm proud. If she hits them late, I don't worry. She didn't roll back to belly until she was 6.5 months old, but she started sitting up at 5.5 months so I figure it just always evens out. It doesn't bother me that she's not crawling. Less chasing around for me! She'll do it when she's ready.
But, believe it or not, a lot of people get really balled up about milestones. Like badges of honor that they're good parents. I really think that this just fuels the competitiveness between mother's. We should share our kid's milestones out of pride, not to put other people down or make them feel like their kid isn't good enough. That they're not good enough.
I won't focus on what Isabella can't do (walk, talk, stand, crawl), but what she can do. Lift her arms up to help me dress her. Roll around like a lunatic on the floor. Pull herself up to a stand. Go from sitting to belly and belly to sitting. Give sweet wet kisses. Kind of clap hands.
Walking, talking, rolling, eating, it comes in time. I have no 3rd graders who can't do that stuff, so we can all relax