Some of you may know that Andy is a police officer. 5 years NYPD and for the past 5 years he's been a State Trooper. Which calls for a very unusual schedule. He works for 2 days, 2 days off, works for 3 days, then 2 days off; lather, rinse, repeat. 2 weeks days, 2 weeks midnights. 12 hour shifts. Plus overtime.
Before Isabella made her grand appearance and it was just the two of us, this worked out quite well. I had time with Andy, time to myself, and time for my friends. It was a great marriage. He was able to get off for any major events, like weddings and the like. I missed him when he was on midnights and I hated sleeping alone, but it made the time that we did have together really great because we missed each other. And, let's call a spade a spade, sometimes it's nice to get your husband out of your hair and have a few nights to yourself.
However, after having a baby, nights to yourself just turn into everything by yourself. Cooking, cleaning, bottle cleaning and making, playtime, bath time, bedtime, night waking time (which sucked if it happened during the week and I had work the next day). I give single mothers all the credit in the world. I struggle doing it the better part of 2 weeks I can't imagine doing it full time.
Our time together now is so full of taking care of Isabella, planning for the future, and making decisions that it really cuts into our quality time. So I miss him that much more now. It's hard to do it all. It's even harder to do it all alone.
When I was growing up my dad worked all the time (he's in law enforcement too). He worked from 3pm-11pm. As a kid, my whole life was between 3pm-11pm, so I never got to see him. We still don't have a very close relationship. I don't want that for Isabella. Now his schedule is awesome for her because he watches her a lot in the daytime, I just worry about what happens when she goes to school. But that seems like light years away.