Wednesday, March 31, 2010

Finding Your "Muchness"


Recently I went to go see Tim Burton's Alice in Wonderland with my mother and sister. Aside from getting to ogle a super hot Johnny Depp with whom I love with all of my soul, the movie was amazing. There were definite liberties taken with the story line and it was more of a combo between Alice in Wonderland and Through the Looking Glass. There was one scene in the movie that I thought was really thought provoking. It has little to do with the story line so it won't ruin anything.

The Hatter was telling Alice that she wasn't quite as much herself as she once was. He said that she lost her "muchness." How many times have we allowed ourselves to be stretched too thin or shrunk down to less than half our size? How long have we let other people make decisions for us when all along the choice was ours?

I've always done what was "expected" of me. I went to college, got a good, safe, solid job, got engaged, bought a house, got married, and had a baby. What would have happened if I didn't listen to my mom or Andy or my friends? What would have happened if I was much too much myself?

Not that I regret any of my paths. They've all lead me to wonderful blessings and amazing people, but sometimes I wonder what would have happened if I went away to school like I wanted to? Or if I got the apartment in Manhattan with my friend when she asked me too? What if I wasn't so scared of the unknown? What if I were more open to taking chances?

I really want to be true to myself in this new chapter of my life. Sometimes I rely too heavily on my mother's advice. I need to grow into myself and find my muchness.

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12 comments:

ModernMom said...

Oh that is thought provoking! I too followed the path that I "should". University, job, marriage, kids. Love it...but what if I had traveled through Europe, been a bit wild. Would it have changed my path? Loved this post!

Brian Miller said...

great post (dropped by via your interview at six feet) it can be so easy to let others dictate our life, but then its not our life to live. i like the challenge...

Rsgrl said...

I felt the same way when I watched that part of the movie! My first reaction was, "Have *I* lost my muchness?" Sometimes I feel like I have. I've never been one to follow the path I'm "supposed" to take and lately I feel like that's all I do. But, the good thing is that I'm okay with that and I am happy. So maybe my muchness is just a different kind of muchness now.

Desi said...

ooooh I loved ths. I think that a lot of moms can relate and i definitley can.

Elizabeth Channel said...

Thought-provoking. Since becoming a mother ten years ago, I have struggled with this same question. All of a sudden I look around and I really don't know who I am...it is so easy to get lost in motherhood...

iheartbowheads.blogspot.com said...

oh I love that - finding my muchness - hmmmm good one!

Moderate Means said...

What a timely post. I've been struggling lately because I feel like I'm being swallowed up by my life...it's controlling me instead of me controlling it.
Stacy

Kisha said...

What a fabulous idea, and post. I love the way you think! I was always good at being "muchful" until the pesky children came along. I think the blog is helping me find it again...giving me the courage and confidence to go after what I really want. I hope it is doing the same for you, love.

Gucci Mama said...

I LOVED this movie! And that part had me thinking the very same things about *interesting* decisions I've made and where they've led. I wonder if everyone must wonder on that at some point. Very interesting!

Val said...

I am loving your blog. I really like this post so true. I remember seeing that movie and thinking the same thing. How sometimes I feel like I lost my Muchness. I don't like when people put down this movie. I think it was good and well thought out.

Following you back from Follow Friday. I would have done it anyways had I come across it sooner. :)

melissa said...

Oh, goodness. I can go on and on with this one. I forever let the influence of everyone around me affect my decisions. My sister, on the other hand, is the exact opposite and always did everything she wanted, regardless of all else. I'm not complaining because I absolutely love my life and have been places and done things I never dreamed of (actually, I have a funny story about my childhood princess fantasy coming true in all ways).

I have learned, however, to be more forthright with my wants.

Ahh, life lessons :)

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Angela said...

I love what you had to say about the "muchness". It's a great reminder to not lose who you are in all the chaos of the world. Thanks for stopping by my blog as well. Stopping by from SITS.

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