Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Melissa vs. Eclipsed

I've used "Eclipsed" as every screen name I've ever had. I almost feel as though it's become another identity; another person. Sometimes I wish I could be more like the persona of Eclipsed. Eclipsed isn't afraid to say exactly what's on her mind, she's witty, open, and honest. Melissa, on the other hand, is way more reserved. I definitely have a difficult time asking for what I need and telling people exactly what I think. The anonymity, for lack of a better word, of the e-world affords me some leeway to say exactly what's on my mind that I could never say in real life.

I would never go into a room with 280+ people in it and declare in front of everyone that I love a good poop, but I totally did that in front of all of you. I would never complain for weeks on end to everyone I saw about my child's lack of sleep for her first 4 months of life, yet I prattled on here about it (and if you stuck with me through that shit storm and didn't get sick of it I applaud you).

I think I need to bring a little bit of Eclipsed's ballsiness into my real life. Although, maybe I'll keep the poop details to myself.

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10 comments:

Nikki said...

I think it's great that you have this as your alter ego outlet. Sometimes it's just so much easier to write things down and be open with people that you know are going through the same thing if not similar things as you are. It's nice to have other mommies to share the sleepless nights with and the fact that you love a good poop....cuz I totally do to...especially since I was constipated for pretty much my whole pregnancy. It was amazing to have regular poops after Mia was born!!! See...people totallly relate!!!
Keep being open!!!

Babes Mami said...

Who doesn't love to poop! I went through months of small painful poop and now I can go three times a day no problem! I love it!

Stephanie said...

Everyone likes to talk about poop. I know that is a great convo to have. It makes it easy to break the ice! LOL! I use my blog as a diary as well. My RLF wouldn't and couldn't deal with my craziness! :)

Mrs. Trophy Wife said...

Totally understand! I feel the same way about "MrsTrophyWife". It's a bizarre thing, the way blogging makes you open up. A great outlet though!

Quixotic said...

I totally get that. Quixotic is my Sasha Fierce!!!

Even though I know a few of my family and friends read my blog, I still have a feeling of a 'degree of separation' that lets me say things I probably wouldn't say in person. Plus I'm just one those people who communicate better in the written word. In verbal conversations I get off-track, derailed, lost for words or distracted by shiny things.

The Bipolar Diva said...

Oh how I know what you mean. My "Diva" personality will tell all! I'm a little more reserved, well, at times.

It's a great thing to be able to say what you want and not feel like you're being put under a microscope.

rock on!!

K A B L O O E Y said...

As another blogger with an alias, I totally agree. I love writing from behind the curtain. Because if you pull it aside, it's a complete Wizard of Oz scenario back here.

Ronnica said...

I'm quite outgoing online, but very reserved in person (at least in larger groups). I think a lot of people are like that. I'm working on being more comfortable in settings I'd usually avoid.

Oh, and I enjoy a good poop, too. Once had a conversation with a friend about it...God loves us enough to allow even defecation to be enjoyable!

Bloggy Blog Designz said...

I think this is the beauty of Blogging... isn't it? We all get to say what we want without being scared of others reactions?

Persis Shah said...

this is so true for many of us...and you provide the much needed inspiration for everyone to be at peace with their bodies and love themselves!

great post!

Persis.

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