Sunday, June 27, 2010

Pathology Results

I posted recently about my mom getting diagnosed with early stage colon cancer. We got the pathology results back and it's looking like she's going to be needing 6 months of chemo. When I first found out, about 2 weeks ago, it felt like the breath had been knocked out of my life. Would she be sick? Would she be bed ridden? Would my vibrant mother fade away?

And on another, more selfish note, what would we do for child care? Day care plus the high cost of my commute is too expensive. I couldn't afford to take an entire year off. What are we going to do? So many questions, so many uncertainties. I could take a FMLA if I needed too for 12 weeks although that would cripple us financially.

Some good friends at work are trying to talk me off the ledge. I don't know how often she'll need to go to chemo or how it will affect her. I just don't know anything. I'm keeping my mouth shut in regards to work right now because it makes my head spin to think about it.

Thank God Andy has rotating days off so he can watch her a lot during the week and my sister offered to pitch in on her days off (monday and tuesday) and my in laws offered to make up the one day a week we were short, but I hate to have my baby girl shuttled and passed around. It could work for a few months but probably not indefinitely. I'm trying not to think that far ahead. I'm trying to focus my energy on my mom and being there for her. We go to the oncologist in a few days so hopefully I'll have some answers, or at least a better grasp of the situation, then.

As always, thank you for your continued prayers and support. Your comments, e-mails, and tweets have really helped to brighten my spirits and make me feel less alone.

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7 comments:

Mrs.Pink said...

Holy shit. I totally missed this news about your mom. I am so sorry and I hope she has a fast & easy recovery.
A close friend of mine at work was diagnosed with breast cancer. She did chemo for about 6 months and never missed a day of work. I remember her telling me she was VERY tired the days following treatment. But other then that she remained well. She is older, well old enough to be my mother.
I know it all varies from person to person. Different amounts of chemo, how well the person is spiritually.
I will keep your mom in my thoughts and prayers. Bella might be what she needs to get through this!!
I hear ya on the day care situation. My parents might be moving as early at Jan2011 so it's in our future as well. And I am not sure how we're going to do it.
Stay stong... I know its hard!

Rsgrl said...

It's all going to work out, I promise. Although, I'm sure it's hard to trust in that when there are so many uncertainties - the greatest of which is your Mom's health. I'm thinking of you often and am here if you need ANYTHING.

Babes Mami said...

Oh my gosh talk about stressful!

Things will work out somehow, maybe baby will like visiting different people or maybe everyone could watch her at your home. I usually go to my sisters to watch her three kids because they have everything they need and are used too.

You will be in my thoughts!

Quixotic said...

Such tough news to handle. My prayers are with yor Mum, and I'm sure she'll handle it like a superstar.
That's a good point about maybe her sitters could watch her in her own home, feel more stable etc.?

Mom of the Twinkies and Tot! said...

I can't even imagine what you are going through right now. I hope all turns out well with your mother...my mom watches my kids when I'm at work and one of the most important people in my life. Praying for you & your family.

Jude said...

Thanks for visiting my blog. I can empathize with your situation--it is so difficult and feels as if there is no solution. You have to keep faith. "All will be well. All manner of things will be well." (Julian of Norwich)

Kismet21 said...

Been thinking about you and your mom. Hang in there. I hope the treatment is a success. I know it is not easy, but you are a strong person and judging from your personality, I am sure your mom is too. I will keep you in my T&P.

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