Thursday, July 15, 2010


Sometimes we're just too hard on ourselves. We put ourselves down, beat ourselves up, and give ourselves a good kick when we're already down.

Be honest, how many times have you looked in the mirror and criticized your body, called yourself fat, wished your nose was smaller, your hair was fuller, your thighs firmer?

How often at the end of the day have you felt guilty and called yourself a bad mom/wife because you ordered take out instead of making something fresh and healthy for your family or because you put on the TV for your kid so you could steal a moment for yourself?

Have you ever put on your pity party pants and cried in the corner into your merlot because you felt like you were Falling Apart?

Forgive yourself. We forgive everyone else. We forgive our kids for being cranky, our husbands for not pulling their weight, our friends for not inviting us to breakfast and the beach, our boss for not recognizing our abilities and hard work, and our coworker for not giving us our due credit. We forgive.

I always offer my forgiveness to others, whether they ask for it or not, because it makes me feel free. I'm going to start offering myself that same dignity. So many of you commented on my Falling Apart post and sympathized with me and encouraged me and it meant a lot. It truly did. Sometimes, most of the time, I'm my own worst critic. I never seem to live up to the image I have in my head and I need to forgive myself for that.

I need to forgive myself for not being perfect. For not having a house that is spic and span. For having cheerios in every nook and corner of my house. For falling back on TV when I'm at my breaking point. For reaching my breaking point. For not buying all organic when it's too expensive. For falling asleep in front of the TV.

Melissa, I forgive you.

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Miranda said...

I so need this advice. It's really hard to forgive myself when I expect so much more from me than I do from other people, you know?

But it's something I need to work on.

Babes Mami said...

No one is perfect but we all struggle with these things everyday. Yesterday I wasn't feeling well and had a migraine, tv was on the majority of the day and my son ate whatever was quick and easy. He was in heaven, I had mommy guilt but I know that sometimes we all have those days.

misssrobin said...

That's what I'm doing wrong. I don't own any pity party pants. Do they come in black?

Linda said...

Hi, Stopping by to thank you for your comment.
This post is great. If you can't forgive yourself....what is there. Thanks for sharing.

Marisa said...

You are so very insightful Melissa, no matter what your post is about I always get something out of it. (even- perhaps even especially - the poop ones!)
In all seriousness though, this is truly a gift you have, these posts, they mean so much to so many...

Melanie said...

I can relate - I'm hard on myself too but I've realized not everything is going to be perfect so I just accepts things as they come! It gets easy as you get older!

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