Saturday, July 3, 2010

I Can't Say No

Andy if you're reading this I am not talking about sex, that I can shut down with the quickness. It's all the other garbage I can't say no to. Can you drive me to the doctor? Can you help me move on Saturday morning? Can you pick me up from the airport at the ass crack of dawn? Can I have both of your kidneys just in case? Sure why the hell not. I have such a difficult time saying NO.

I really need to grow a pair and learn how to tell people that I just can't help them all the time, but then I feel like that's bad karma and if I need help one day no one will help me. And I do like to help people, I will help anyone that I can whenever I can, maybe just not at ass crack of dawn on Sunday morning.

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14 comments:

Shell said...

Once I learned how to say no, it was so freeing and became much easier to say it again.

Erin said...

"Andy if you're reading this I am not talking about sex, that I can shut down with the quickness."

...But why would you want to?!

Stopping by from SITS.

Mrs.Pink said...

Who says you have to say no?! You gotta learn how to make up a bullshit story quickly to get out of it. And it doesn't have to be detailed. "Ohh sorry I am going with Sarah (a coworker that person doesn't know) to the green market tomorrow morning, we've been planning it for weeks." And its not so harsh as a plain old no.
It's worked for me! :)

Emily said...

I have the same problem. I try so much to help other people that I end up not having time to help myself! It's a bad, bad habit.

Thanks so much for stopping by my blog & becoming a follower! Your little Isabella Grace is beautiful, and your blog is so cute too, I just have to follow you back!

Rsgrl said...

Can you come to my house and have cocktails with me - no babies allowed? See you in a few days! :)

Krysten @ After 'I Do' said...

I'm bad at saying no but I tell myself that it's better for everyone involved if I sometimes do.

Quixotic said...

I used to struggle with this too. I still like to help people when I can, but if I have a bit much on my plate, I now just say, "Oh, I'm sorry, I can't". They usually assume this is because of a prior engagement, but I don't have to make up a story. If they ask why, I tell them I have something else on. People are rarely pushy enough to then ask, "What?" although it has happened. Then I just ask if I need an alibi!

Because I usually do help out when I'm free, most people don't see me as a 'dodger' and therefore take me at my word!

Sarah at The Stroller Ballet said...

It's a woman thing, I think. Because I'm the same way. The ass crack of dawn really sucks, though!!

purseblogger said...

I hear you. I've gotten better at it but I still feel guilty sometimes. But it is freeing for sure. Good luck!

Resourceful Red said...

i totally understand you on this. i have the exact same problem. maybe we can learn together?!

Bloggy Blog Designz said...

Is this not the total dilemma always?

Sippy Cup Mom said...

I am the same exact way! I need to start saying no too.

New follower and can't wait to look around!

Samantha said...

Thank you for stopping by my blog! At least I know I'm not alone in the "I can't say no" complex. :) Not only do I have a hard time saying no, I also always feel like I have to give a REASON for saying no.

Kelli said...

I have the same problem! And my husband wonders why we are never home on the weekends...

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