I feel that women are meant to feel that they should instinctually want to stay home with their children, and many women do, but I feel that it's something that is thrust upon us. Let me explain: I love my daughter more than words can say, but I also love my career. I don't feel like I need to give up one to have the other. It might not be easy but I can have it all. Sometimes do I wish I could be a stay at home mom? Sure. But I love my job. I'm good at what I do. I may not love the beurocracy, politics, and paperwork that comes with teaching, but put me in front of a classroom with kids and I'm in my element.
The thought of taking a leave from work upsets me, not just because of the money we'd lose, but I don't want to take a 3 month break from work. I don't want to give up my career and I don't want to be made to feel that I'm a bad mom because I chose to work.
The problem with this is that I'm always scared to say it out loud. People look at you like you have some sort of genetic disorder because you don't want to give up your career. There's nothing wrong with having a baby and a job. Just like there's nothing wrong with only having a job and not a family and there's nothing wrong with giving up your job for a baby.
It all boils down to choice. There are some women who relish staying home with their little ones and the bond that I'm sure develops because of that. But not all of us. It's ok to work. It's ok to chose to work and it's ok to WANT to work. I hope I'm making sense...sometimes my intentions get muddled when I start to pontificate.