Since my mom is going through chemo and isn't strong enough to take care of Isabella we've had to seriously consider our childcare options since she was Isabella's main care giver while Andy and I worked. We are very fortunate that Andy has a rotating schedule so he has time off during the week where he can watch her and my sister is wonderfully forfeiting her two days off (Monday and Tuesday) to watch her. But we're still short 5 days a month and since I'm assuming it would be illegal to throw a sippy cup and a bowl of cheerios on the floor and let her fend for herself on those days we had to look into day care.
We went to a bunch but have ultimately decided on Children of America. It fits in with our budget, I loved the director, and I really liked her teachers and the room she would be in and it is equipped with webcams. So if any of you have any insights on Children of America, good, bad, first, or second hand I'd really appreciate it.
So intellectually I know that millions of parents use day care and that she'll have fun socializing with other kids and will engage in fun group projects but emotionally this is tearing me apart. What if she gets scared in the middle of the day and wonders where I am? What if she won't nap on those little cots? What if she cries? What if they're mean to her? What if she feels abandoned? I'm really very nervous about it and we don't start until November so I have several weeks for my fears to grow. I think I'm going to go back and take another look around just because in my mind it's slowly morphing from a bright, sunny school to a dungeon when I know that's not the case, well intellectually I know that's not the case.
There's also the money situation. Andy and I had a budget all set up that we would be saving $300 a month for a bigger house so that we could hopefully be out of our townhouse and into a bigger home in a few years and then we could start trying to have another baby. Well now all of that extra money has to go to day care. Additionally, since Andy will be watching her during the week as well, he can't pick up any overtime shifts on weekdays, only on weekends which will be cutting into our family time. But what can we do? With money going out on day care we can't turn down overtime shifts since that's the only way we can pad our savings.
It's just a shitty situation all around. If you guys could share your day care experience or if you have any tips on helping with the transition I'd love to hear it.