Thursday, October 21, 2010

Hey You There On Your High Horse

I believe it's Shell from Things I Can't Say who coined the term "motherbitch" well, I am taking issue with a general group of motherbitches.  No one person in particular, but you know the type.  The kind who only feed their kids organic vegetables, don't allow any TV, have Mozart on a constant stream, no sweets, no getting dirty, no mismatching the socks with the hair bows, no fun.  Now I don't have a problem with those types of moms per se, but when they try to put me down for the way I parent there's a problem.

I try and give Isabella veggies but if she doesn't eat them I sneak them in her food.  I'm not above having her watch a TV show so I can cook dinner or take a 20 minute break because unlike the aforementioned mothers, I need a break.  She's eaten cake on her birthday, drinks watered down juice, and I have no problem letting her dig in the dirt.  I've also never really baby proofed, just a gate at the top of the stairs and covers on the outlets.  If kids never got hurt then they'd never have any cool stories to swap on the playground ;)

I don't think I'm a bad mom for my decisions.  I don't want to raise some lame kid who's never seen a piece of chocolate.  I just hate judgy moms who are all "oh, I don't let my precious Jimmy eat/watch/do that."  We all parent in the way that we feel is best, no one way is better than the other and being judgemental and gossipy behind someone's back just makes you look like a holier than thou motherbitch.

There was no specific incident that sparked this post, but sometimes I get a little sick of the bubble kids are raised in.  Not saying you need to shovel french fries and sugar down their throats, but I think sometimes people just need to lighten up a bit.  Know what I mean?
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bluewhitelife said...

Either way, paying attention to your kids makes them succeed more in life :) And helicopter parenting makes your kids' college instructors laugh at you. I don't want a note from mom when you are late for class ;)

Sounds like you're doing a good job so far :)

Mrs. MidAtlantic said...

I completely agree! Sounds like we have similar parenting styles... which is to say, we are awesome! If kids never got hurt, how would they learn not to do stupid things?

FeliciaE said...

I know the mom types you are mentioning. I can't stand them either most of the time.

I completely agree that most parents need to lighten up a bit and let their children be children before it is to late.

Iowa Sunshine said...

i always think, "i'll be seeing your kid in therapy" -- since i'm a therapist :). i think bubbles can make the parent feel good (ie: in control), but it doesn't seem natural for all of that control and policy-making to go into parenting.

Lil'Misa said...

Agreed. I want the best for my little one but I'm not going to go crazy. I want him to get dirty, get hurt and experience life. I do want him to eat healthy but at the same time enjoy life's goodies. I want him to learn balance and how to enjoy both.

bbjoys said...

Totally know what you mean! :)

Desi said...

yes I agree and I'm sick of the mom's trying to compare what their kid is doing at this age when they are clearllyyy bragging. Weren't we taught long ago that bragging is rude? k, done.

Six Feet Under Blog said...

I believe that parents can raise their children anyway they want, but they shouldnt try to tell other parents that they are doing things wrong.

UrbanGypsy said...

I raised my kids like you are - and they are all fine. ( And sometimes - when I needed that break - they got TV AND a who's the bad Mom now? LOL ) You're doing just fine, Sister!

Ginger said...

agreeeee!!! :) I totally let me kid watch way more TV than I should, and I know it. But I also know that I need a break, and she totally needs time to zone out after her big days too.

Are you kids healthy, happy and well adjusted? Then don't change a thing. This is how we know we're doing a good job, regardless of the noise the motherbitches make.

misssrobin said...

It used to bother me a lot more when my kids were young. Now I just usually smile and nod thinking, "Come talk to me when you've been doing this for twenty years and we'll laugh at your naivite' together."

Unless someone is abusing their child, I think everyone should mind their own business. We all screw our kids up in our own special way.

Prepare the child for the path, not the path for the child. Wise words to live by.

You're a great mom. Don't let small-minded people stress you out. It's just not worth it. You've got more important things to worry about.

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