Friday, December 24, 2010

A Little Self Love

I'm not talking about the kind of self love that involves a pink piece of rubber cleverly adorned with vibrating rabbit ears, I should say that I'm talking about self-nurturing.  Mother's are constantly nurturing our children.  There's always a mouth that needs feeding, a nose that needs wiping, a bum that needs changing, a boo boo that needs kissing, and a tear that needs comforting.  Then we nurture our home.  There are floors to mop, rugs to vacuum, clothes to wash, dry, fold, and put away, meals to make, and lunches to pack.  We also nurture our husbands.  We cook, clean, and put out.  It's safe to say that our nurturing skills are very well honed, but do we ever use them on ourselves?

So many women, whether they are mothers or not, are worn down, burnt out, and fed up.  We work our bodies to the core and we run our souls ragged.  We need to start carving out small moments to nurture ourselves.

I'm sitting here now, with a hot cup of green tea and two Stella D'oro Breakfast biscuits; the Christmas tree is all lit up and the lights are dim and I feel at peace.  I feel like I can take 20 minutes to enjoy this quiet space to write.  Stella D'oro Breakfast Biscuits are my favorite and I never buy them because I've been so good on my diet and it makes me think about all the times I do without.   I do without delicious cookies so the scales don't tip, I pass on the beautiful dress that flatters my curves because it's too pricy and that money should be spent on diapers, I say no to the dinner invitation because I need to be home with my family.  Sometimes it's not ok to do without.

So I'm urging you to take a few minutes for yourself each day.  Take a bubble bath, read a magazine in peace and quiet, get lost in a book, sip a cup of tea by the fire, savor a glass of wine in front of a rainy window, make your favorite meal and sit down at the table and enjoy each bite, go window shopping, buy something for yourself, grab dinner with your best girlfriends, go see a movie with your husband, grab a latte at starbucks and sink into one of their cushy arm chairs and enjoy it while you people watch, take a class, sit quietly and think of all your grateful for.

There are so many ways, so many of them free, that we can indulge ourselves.  So many ways to nurture ourselves.  It could be ten minutes, 20, half an hour, an hour if you're lucky each day that you call your own.  Make it a priority.  For me I have to write it on my to-do list, which is so lame but it works.  Sandwiched between "do the dishes" and "fold the laundry" is, have a "cup of tea and cookies and write".  How do you carve out time for yourself?
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Katie Jeans Jewelry said...

Melissa, I like that you actually make yourself part of your todo list. It dosn't sound great that you have to do this but it is like your making yourself a priority not just sliding 10 minutes into your day if you can. Your important and you deserve it. Merry Christmas to you and your family.

Just A Mom (Call me JAM for short) said...

I remember when my kids were young, it was always hard to find time to myself. But I agree, it's important to make it a priority! Because you know what they say,

"If momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy!"

I hope you and your family have a Merry Christmas!

Lisa said...

I remember participating in a challenge like this while taking a course on therapeutic palliative care. The theory was, when caring for the dying, you have to be able to give from the best and most at peace parts of yourself. How can you do that if your tank is totally on empty?

I haven't written a resolutions post for the year, mostly because I don't like having in black and white all that I will fall short of accomplishing. ;-) But if I were to write one, I think you have inspired me to include something like this. Thanks for posting.

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