Wednesday, May 25, 2011

When Social Media Hurts

There's no denying the prominent role that social media plays in our lives.  Twitter, Facebook, 4 Square, Linked In, Blogs.  We're always connected all the time.  And for the most part social media is great, it gives us chances to connect to old friends, to keep family members updated, and find out what that crazy Charlie Sheen is up to, but it's not always good.  Sometimes it hurts.

Social media can be a reminder of what's not going on in your life.  Your best friend from high school is posting pictures of her romantic getaway to the Caribbean in her string bikini and rocking bod and you haven't even been out to eat in a month.  It's easy to feel envious or jealous because everyone is showcasing their life in a way that they want you to see it.  Status updates are sometimes a painful jab into what you find lacking in your own life.

Sometimes social media can make you feel left out.  Like when I sign onto twitter and it feels like I'm merging onto a highway at 70 mph and I just can find my groove.  Or when I see that friends have gotten together via an update or a picture and I wasn't included.  Or when virtual strangers were invited to a blogging event and I wasn't invited.  It can make you feel down on yourself.  Also, you can feel like a loser when no one comments, answers, or "likes" your status.  Or when you finally get yourself onto your mom board and you just can't keep up with what's going on.

For someone like me who is hyper-sensitive, social media needs to be handled with kid gloves and sometimes I just need to lighten up.
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9 comments:

mtendere said...

And sometimes keeping up is even more of a problem because you feel guilty for spending too much time online!I'm sorry you're feeling down, but remember plenty of people love you and love to hang out with you. And plenty of those perfect Facebook folks have big problems they never share.

Melaina25 said...

Just try not to take it all too seriously xoxo

Katie said...

I love what you said about people portraying their lives the way they want you to see it...it's so easy to see through a lot of the time! Great post :)

Lil'Misa said...

There are times I am jealous of others because of what I see in their blogs, facebook, etc. I have to remind myself that it is just a snap shot of their life. Like Mel said, you can't take it too seriously. Does it hurt sometimes, yes. But then I know it is time for me to step away from the computer for a bit and enjoy MY life.

Alex said...

I know what you mean.. its like if no one likes or comments you start wondering if anyone even took the time to read it or acknowledge it.... i get it...

i try not to sweat it most of the time but sometimes it hurts.

Alex said...

I know what you mean.. its like if no one likes or comments you start wondering if anyone even took the time to read it or acknowledge it.... i get it...

i try not to sweat it most of the time but sometimes it hurts.

Resourceful Red said...

Uh, I know what your mean. Smetimes I really feel like just permanently deleting my account on Facebook. Some things just sting too bad.

Mrslmk28 said...

I totally get this post!! You are so not alone. :)

Rachel said...

Or when people make comments that they would not make to your face on face book like the words don't hurt as much if you type them! I feel ya my friend!

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