Monday, June 27, 2011

The State of Our Union

So apparently any sort of Happiness Project post is like comment repellent, which must mean that you're not completely enraptured with my happiness ya bunch of bitches.  But I'm just narcissistic enough to power through and keep on writing about it.

This month the focus is on marriage and I'll admit that working on a relationship that exists outside myself is a bit difficult, just to continue on with my theme of narcissism.  But honestly, Andy and I have a great relationship.  We always have.  This focus wasn't on fixing anything it was on making it better and I have to say that it was pretty beneficial.

I've also accepted the fact that Andy will be a pain in my ass sometimes and get on my nerves.  He won't care about clutter or if there are dust bunnies under the bed.  I've also accepted that I will get on his nerves. Hair in the drain will never bother me and my shoes will keep piling up outside the door instead of in the closet.  We have our differences and always will, but in the long run none of them are deal breakers.

I'd say the most influential thing for me this month has been proof of love.  I haven't been as awesome at it as I would have liked to, but I didn't do too terrible either.  It doesn't have to be anything big, just something small to let him know I was thinking of him.  Like brewing him a pot of coffee when I know he's tired, or doing the dishes at night so he doesn't have to do them in the morning even if it's not my turn.  Little, thoughtful things that go a long way and it's weird because without me asking he's done things for me in turn, like filling up my gas tank and offering to make dinner and putting the laundry away.  It's been nice.
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3 comments:

Caren with a "C" said...

Hi Melissa, I have found over the years in my marriage that what you say is so true. We all have little things that the other may not like, but they aren't deal breakers. Plus like you said, if I scratch his back, he will usually scratch right back and then I usually scratch back... it becomes a domino effect and really helps a marriage. The little things we can do to serve each other each day to show we love them really do matter. Stopping by from SITS!

Rachel said...

I think your right its the little things you may not even have noticed unless you were paying attention! I am glad your happiness project is working out so well!

Michelle said...

I love this project...I am finding the same things. I also have had to watch how I respond to him and it has really made a difference. We have a great relationship too and have enjoyed spending more time together. For us, the focus was more on making more time for one another with such hectic schedules. I have found that I look forward to our time together so much more now. I'm not talking about laundry or grocery shopping days either. It's been real quality time. I also had to understand that his idea of quality time is different from mine. That was so helpful this month! Keep on writing and thanks for sharing! Can't wait to see what next month brings.

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