Monday, October 3, 2011

October Happiness - Leisure

Whew! September is over and I'm still in one piece, relatively.  While the challenges at work aren't lessening, I am getting back into the swing of things and I'm ready for the next chapter of my Happiness Project.  In October I'm getting serious about play and focusing on Leisure.

I'm talking about carving out and focusing on the things that I do for myself, for fun, and for my "me" time.  Which means that one of the first things I needed to do was think about what I like to do in my free time.  Where do I find my fun?

  • I love to read.  Browsing in bookstores, getting lost in novels, learning from non-fiction, perusing magazines all makes me super happy.  
  • Shopping is fun.  I like to window shop and put together new outfits, although I don't know how well this is going to fit in with my budget. 
  • Pretty much anything that gets me out of the house.  I tend to brood when I'm indoors too often, so spending time in out of doors activities or at places that provide a change of scenery gives me the greatest sense of fun.
  • Watching TV and movies.  Loves it.  
  • Cooking. Especially new recipes.  
It may not be the most sophisticated list, but I'm not exactly what you would call a sophisticated gal.  And honestly, it took me a long time to kind of puzzle out what I find fun.  I also need to remind myself that just because someone else finds something fun, doesn't mean it's fun for me. Here are my resolutions for the month.

Find more fun: It's so easy when I have a free moment to throw in a load of laundry, do a quick mop of the floor, or unload the dishwasher, that sometimes the whole day goes by and I haven't done one thing that's just fun for me.  I need to try to do one fun thing a day.  Maybe it's watching Mike and Molly instead of dusting or getting a mani-pedi after work instead of rushing home to make dinner.  I'm worth one fun moment a day, and I'm sure that the people around me will benefit from it.  I'm so over feeling guilty about doing things for myself, especially since no one else in my household shares that affinity.  

Be silly: So what if Isabella spills the paint on the floor or if dinner gets burned because we had to sing Hakuna Matata again for like the 10th time.  Honestly, sometimes I'm so consumed by the running to-do list in my head or overwhelmed by the amount of crap that needs to be dealt with that I feel glum and humorless.  Sometimes I need to just be silly.  Instead of cajoling Isabella to take the underwear off of her head and put them on her butt, maybe I should just go with it.  

Go off the path: Research shows that introducing novel activities into your life can significantly boost happiness.  I want to try new things.  Even if it's just once.  For example, I've always been terrified to drive in Manhattan.  The crowds, the traffic, the parking, so I've always cabbed it or if I really had to, taken the subway.  But recently, when I took Isabella to the bubble show I decided I would do it and it was a little bit scary, but I did it and it felt great.  I was so inspired that I took her to go see the Lion King by myself the following day just the two of us and it was great.  I really want to try to do something novel at least once a week.  

I'm ready to get down with leisure.  

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Eschelle said...

i love being silly!! Best part of everyday! lol

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