Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Double Life

This past weekend I got a glimpse into a life I could be living...the single life.  Well not really, but kind of.  On Saturday night my friends and I went out to celebrate our girlfriend's Teresa's birthday.  We had a fabulous dinner and then went to boogie it up to 80's music at Culture Club in manhattan.  Being responsible I knew there was no way that I would be able to drive home so I planned to spend the night at my sister's apartment.  She just moved out on her own and I figured it would be fun to see what the other half lived like.

I never had the opportunity to live on my own or with a friend as a roommate and I have to say that's the one thing I always feel like I missed out on.  To have a place of your own where you're free to come and go as you please.  So I went in a little bit early to hang out and finish up getting ready at her place (her roommate was out of town for the weekend).  And I really liked it, we watched some bad TV, swapped jewelry and chatted until the limo came to get us (we don't usually splurge for such fancy traveling, but the birthday girl's father footed the bill).

That part was fun.  But waking up in an apartment that wasn't mine, that smelled like cigarettes, booze, and regret wasn't as glamorous as I thought it would be.  It felt kind of empty.  My life may not be perfect, but it's warm and filled with love.  I may fall closer to the adjective of "boring" than "wild" (I'm not completely boring I did stay out until 4 am!) but I'm ok with that.  Nights spent out with the girls, getting dressed up and dancing, are the exception rather than the norm and I'm in a place where I'm no longer pining for my wild child days, but I'm accepting of my place in the ebb and flow of life.

So that single life has it's perks: freedom, friends, excitement, and about as much sleep on the weekends as you can take.  But it's not a life I'm missing and if I had to choose between the two temper tantrums, 7 am wakeup calls, and a 9 pm bedtime my cozy family life will win out every time.
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10 comments:

The Blonde Duck said...

Popped in from SITS! It was nice you got to peek on life on the other side for awhile.

Sweet Southern Love said...

Agree completly! My husband and I were in bed the other night at 9:30! I told him, you know we are parents now! But, I wouldn't have it any other way!

Emily said...

I loved my single days, living with roommates, etc. it's a time of my life I'll always have fond memories of. Stopping by from SITs!

Jocelyn said...

I totally agree. I remember my single girl days fondly, as a couple years of them were spent out in NYC, but I love being a wife and mom now. Plus I'll always have some good stories! ;)

Jo said...

Some time ago my husband & kids went away. So I got to 'be single & child free'. To start off is was lots of fun but in the end it was just so tiring I couldn't wait for them to come back home so I could be 'boring' again.

Katie said...

Very well said, love this post!

Lance and Stephanie Kneese said...

Found you by way of SITS! :)

I understand how you feel. I'll be 24 next month and except for one year in a dorm (that I didn't spend much time in) I was always with my now husband and lived with him.
But at the same time definitely wouldn't feel the same waking up somewhere else, I've come to love my little "home" wherever we may be.

Ariel @ Dreams To Do said...

I could have written this post myself! I totally agree. Love me some girl time, love going out, but love my boring family life the best. :-)

Brianna Storch said...

I recently went on a cruise with my mother and I spent most of the time getting tan and partying in the cruise's club until 3 or 4am! But it made me realize that the last 4-5 years have changed a LOT (I used to live like that no problem) and it still felt empty once I got back to the room.
When I got back home, I resettled into my "normal" life and it has never felt better!

Stopped by from SITS... :)

christymg said...

Living with a roommate is really not as fun as it seems on tv and in the movies and it actually is a lot lonelier then you would think and I actually like to be alone. It is also expensive.

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