Friday, October 12, 2012

Statistics...In the Eye of the Beholder

Usually I'm a somewhat logical person, who on occasion may become ruled by emotions.  If you're a regular reader, you probably just lol'ed a bit at that first sentence, but anyway I am the type of person who takes comfort in statistics and cold hard facts.

I read a study once that said if you live together before marriage that your x% more likely to get divorced.  BAM! No cohabitating before marriage.  A little extreme?  Maybe, but statistics make me feel like I have a handle on things.  They provide a bit of safety.

So when the doctor told me after my ultra sound that I only had a 3-5% chance of a miscarriage I should have been happy.  It makes sense to be happy.  That means that 95-97% of women go on to carry full term babies.  Those are numbers that I should be able to groove with.

But I looked my doctor straight in the eye (no easy feat when you're ass naked and in stir ups) and said, "6 months ago you told me I only had a 1% chance of an ectopic"

It still boggles my mind sometimes.  99% of people never have an ectopic pregnancy.  One percent.  It made 5% seem like a giant number.

I think that for a woman who has suffered a loss, any loss, the "numbers" don't offer as much comfort as you would think.  I think that any woman who has cried herself to sleep over a lost little one looks at 5% as just a scary a risk as ever.

Or maybe it's just me.  But I think that while pregnancy is an amazing time, it's also very very scary.  Stay strong with me sisters!
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Jo said...

I think that this is one of those times when, no matter how many people tell you that it is going to be okay, you are not going to believe it, until you do.
Because when it's not okay it's major. But, when that time comes and you know and believe that it's going to be okay you are going to enjoy this pregnancy.

I hope you reach that point soon. Until then try not to worry too much.

doseofreality said...

Stopping by from SITS. I totally agree with you. I live for numbers and statistics. I like to feel like I have more control than I probably actually do.
Happy pregnancy to you! :)

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