Friday, January 25, 2013

Newborn Moms

God dontcha just love first time moms of newborns?  There like a special breed of moms, much like the new monkey exhibit down at the zoo.  Just so darn cute.

They're in that phase of motherhood where they are realizing that all the dreams they clung to during their pregnancy are just crashing down around them in piles of dirty diapers and 2 am feedings and colic.  But their mommy skin hasn't quite gotten to the point where they feel comfortable complaining about it.

They gush about how "perfect" and "good" their brand spanking new babies are, while their blood shot eyes and milk stained clothes scream the truth, which as we all know, is that while newborns are cute and cuddly and sweet, they basically suck the life right out of you.

A good friend of mine just had a baby and when I went to visit her she was full swing in the "Newborn Mom" phase.  Now you can't rush a newborn mom into letting go of that facade and venting about how the transition can be tough.  But the second time I visited her, about a month later, she was all about the bitching about how her boyfriend doesn't help, the apartment is in disarray, and the baby woke up 3 times the night before and OMG there's no coffee left!

My own wretched newborn from yesteryear.  Kinda looks like
a crotchedy old man no?
She was coming out of her phase.

I think we all went through it.  That time between pregnancy and the time a baby starts sleeping through the night where you're basically a zombie who feels like they are supposed to be thrilled with the fact that they are a zombie.  Eventually you come out of it and realize that complaining about being tired doesn't mean you don't love your baby or that bitching about your husband doesn't mean he's not a good dad.

So skip the zoo this weekend, go see a newly born mom.

P.S. - I'm assuming that second+ time moms are spared from this phase because you're only a new mom once.


Stephanie said...

I haven't visited in a long while...I LOVE the new look!

Hannah said...

Ha, stumbled on this through blogger and loved it :) I was just emailing a friend/FTM the exact sentiments you just wrote!

Tara Lotufo said...

I love how you switch up your look all the time! Hope your feeling well...I was on a funky hiatis for a while...but, I'm baaaaack!!! lol

torinelson said...

Perfect timing! I'm writing today about how I really didn't love being a mom at first. All those ugly things I thought that I didn't think it was okay to say because everyone wanted to know how magical and perfect everything was going.

The Dose of Reality said...

Oh my GOSH, YES!!! I totally get it! And could not agree more!! Stopping by from SITS.

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