Thursday, March 21, 2013

The Other Side

This past week I had some girl time with some of my friends from work.  We went to my friend's house and had yummy food and just kind of bull shitted about work and our lives and men and kids and what not.

One of the girls is single and has her own apartment in a trendy neighborhood.  Another one is a single mom and both were talking about the dating scene and online dating and shopping and stuff and I was really aware of the staunch differences in our lives.

I know that they both have their struggles, but their lives just seem so full of promise and excitement and uncertainty.  They have freedom and choices and matches from match.com.  My life, which I love and is also great, can be a bit hum drum at times and there's not much novelty or freedom to be found.

It didn't make me wish that I had that life, although I do wish I had more time to go shopping and decorate my house in an eclectic and funky way, it was just so interesting to me to see how the other side lives.  The excitement of an upcoming date.  Talking about going out for drinks with friends or dates.  It's a side of life that I didn't get to experience because I got married so young.

This is not the first time I've written about this topic and I suspect it won't be the last. I was just wondering what it would be like to live that life.  Would I love the independence or would I cower under it?  I'm not very assertive.  Would I love the dating scene or would it wear me out?  Would I relish in the freedom or be daunted by it?

I don't know.  I hope I'll never know.  But it's always fascinating to think of how the other side really lives.

8 comments:

Holly said...

I met my fiance in high school so it's not like I went on tons of dates before him. I also wonder if I'd enjoy the dating scene, but I definitely wouldn't change my situation for the world.

Kristen said...

I don't think the grass is greener on the other side for even a New York second. I'm so glad I found my guy. The dating scene is just too stressful for me.

Nicole @ Pencil Skirts and Noodle Necklaces said...

It is always so interesting to have a glimpse into someone else's life.... I married my high school sweetheart - so dating wasn't really a part of my life. Still wouldn't trade it in for anything else. :) Thanks for stopping by today!

Madonna said...

How funny you write this; just yesterday i went through a bunch of photos i found from my first year after college... my roommate and i had good times and had a lot of parties! I did the dating scene after college in that first year and shortly after, my now husband and I went on our first date. I'm glad I'm married! It was fun, but I couldn't keep up with that lifestyle and I love knowing I have someone to go home to.

However, I would love a little more freedom on occasion for a girls night out, a weekend getaway with hubs or with friends, and a pre-babies cash flow! But at the same time, my friends are wishing for what I have. In the end, I'm the lucky one! Sometimes it's nice to live vicariously through someone else though...

The Dose of Reality said...

I definitely think about it from time to time, but I cannot imagine going back to the dating scene. All that pressure and stress and uncertainty. UGH. I would enjoy the alone time every once in a while, though! ;)

Michelle Nahom said...

I also married young, so I never really had that life either. I can't imagine being part of the dating scene though. I wouldn't trade my life, but over the last 8 years ago, I've gotten much better about girls nights out...we need those every now and then!

Tamara Camera said...

I often wonder about the other side. My older sister is unmarried and leads an exciting single life. I'm married for five years now and I have two kids. I think in a lot of ways she wants my life and hates the uncertainty and fear that she'll never meet someone she wants to marry and have kids. Sometimes I long for that other side life. I honestly don't even know what I'd do with it now that I'm 32.

Babes Mami said...

I didn't get married until right before I turned 25 and I got pregnant a few months before I turned 24 so I have dated and been single for awhile, I don't miss it at all!

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