Tuesday, April 2, 2013

Slowing Down

I'm a full on Type A kind of person.  I have a really difficult time letting go of control or slowing down.  I have an even more difficult time asking for help.  However, I am 8 months pregnant and my body is screaming at me to slow down.

Andy's been wrapped up in working on the nursery and there's lots of talk about dry wall and spackle and primer and paint and trim, so I've been handling the bulk of the child care and household chores.  I can feel the toll it's taking on me.  My back hurts.  My feet throb.  My varicose veins bulge.  I can't catch my breath.  My knees feel sore.  My uterus contracts.

I need to slow down.

Between running around after Isabella, doing crafts, having dance parties, going to play dates and day trips and cooking dinner, cleaning up the house, and fitting in exercise I feel like I'm just spread too thin.

So I'm trying to force myself to slow it down.  I've started by asking for help.  I've asked Andy and my mom to pitch in with the chores around the house.  So I'll ask Andy to take care of the floors for the week and my mom to stay on top of kitchen duty, then I can just focus on the easier stuff like dusting and windexing.  I'm also looking into having someone come in twice a month to help out with the cleaning.  I think that will be well worth the cost, especially after Mrs. Petrillo comes.

I'm also having to let things go a bit.  So what if the linen closet isn't pin worthy?  So what if I can only squeeze in 30 minutes of yoga instead of 45?  It's not the end of the world.  I need to let my body rest when it needs to. And, let's face it, once baby comes there won't be much down time at all.

It's not that anybody superimposes these expectations on me.  Andy's not yelling at me to clean the floors or to take Isabella to the park, I totally do it to myself.

So I'm trying my best to let go of the nesting instinct and put the Type A in a cage somewhere in the back of my mind.  Not sure how successful I'll be, but I sure am getting uncomfortable enough to try and slow it down.


Tamara Camera said...

I have a lot of trouble asking for help and the end of my second pregnancy definitely requested it!

Hope you're feeling well and that you have a smooth next few weeks. I think I'm a bit of control freak and since pregnancy/labor/parenting is like the ultimate test of stuff you have no control of, well I struggled!

Tricia said...

I'm very much the same and found myself in a similar position at 8 months pregnant (working and planning my daughter's birthday party and I can't even remember what else!). Keep asking for help and accepting it when it's offered. It's so hard to do but so good for you. Get some rest, mama!

Bev Feldman said...

I was just talking to a friend who just had her first child in February, and she was saying she has a really hard time asking for help, even if it's so she can take a nap. I'm the same way. I'm going to need to learn slow down and ask for more help. I think so many of us put too many expectations on ourselves.

Alison said...

Well, I just wrote a post about taking a giant nap so I know where you're coming from.

Second pregnancies can be so physically and emotionally exhausting. Take time to rest when you can, and you're absolutely right in asking for help. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy!

Be-Quoted.com said...

Nothing causes you to listen to your body more than a bun in the oven. My linen closet is never pin worthy and haven't been pregnant in 3 years! Hooray for you because you're doing better than me. I have no excuse. Smh. Andrea @ be-quoted.com visiting from SITS.

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