Monday, June 17, 2013

Floppy Ear

So Arya has a floppy ear.  When she was first born I noticed it right away and the doctor who delivered her told me that it was probably just the way she was lying in utero.  Then the hospital pediatrician came to examine her and she said that it was soft cartilage and to follow up with our pediatrician.  When we took her to her first visit I brought it up and the doctor said that, unfortunately, there was nothing that they could do about it right now since she was so small and that it might eventually correct on its own.

::Cue rapid fire googling::

It seemed that there were stints that you could purchase to tape the ear back, but I wasn't sure if it was legit or not so I made an appointment with a pediatric ENT to get a second opinion.  I always find it wise to get a second opinion on things that stick in my craw.

He gave some more information, but unfortunately said the same thing as our pediatrician.  He said that since she's so young and the ear hasn't finished growing that there's nothing they can do to correct it.  Once she's around 6 or 7 years old her ear should be done growing and then, if it hasn't corrected on its own, they can do a procedure called an otoplasty so the ear won't flop down.  He said this is usually around the time that the ear has reached its full size and around the age where she might begin to feel self-conscious about it. He said we can use a soft baby head band which might help a bit, but she hates them and I'm not going to make her sit and cry.  He also said that there's less than a 25% chance of it self correcting.  But it's not impossible, so I'm trying to stay positive.

I was glad to get a second opinion, but it hurt my momma heart when I left the office that day.  I can't imagine anyone teasing my sweet little girl about her ear.  As mothers all we want to do is protect our kids.  I just don't want her to have to deal with anything extra that could cause her pain or embarrassment.

As a teacher I've seen young children be incredibly kind, but they can also be incredibly cruel and I don't want Arya on the wrong end of any of that.  If her hair is anything like her sister's we can always cover it if she feels self-conscious about it.  A good friend of mine said that it's not usually children who are rude about things like that, but more the adults.  Adults I can handle.

Ear be damned, she's just the most beautiful little girl.

7 comments:

Sarah said...

I love her! She is the sweetest little thing! F adults! This world can be so cruel. All you can do is teach her to be kind and hope it's returned! She is beautiful regardless!!

xoxo mama

Ariel @ Dreams To Do said...

You're so right, she is the most beautiful little girl! My nephew was born with a deformed ear (much more so than Arya) and he also can't hear out of that side (so sad). He will be getting it reconstructed when it stops growing. Her hair will come in in no time and you won't even notice it anymore! {{HUGS!}}

Tamara Camera said...

Aww..wow. She is just the sweetest, isn't she? Ah and so much hurts our momma's hearts. If it isn't that unique and adorable ear, it's something else always. Cause people are cruel and no one is exempt. No one even knows I have ears because my hair always covers them!

Khloé Belle Gadson said...

She's adorable ...regardless of her ear and I completely feel for you when you say you don't want kids to be mean to her. I get it! I've had to live with a bad arm since I was 9 years old and I was teased a lot.

Still get stares from kids and adults alike and I'm 34 and sometimes the pain I felt as a child still resonates but I try to let that go! I'm too old to care anymore...

She'll be ok! Keep reminding her as she gets older that she's beautiful and that her ear makes her unique.

Keep it Touched,
Khloe
www.kgstyleblogs.com

Khloé Belle Gadson said...

She's adorable ...regardless of her ear and I completely feel for you when you say you don't want kids to be mean to her. I get it! I've had to live with a bad arm since I was 9 years old and I was teased a lot.

Still get stares from kids and adults alike and I'm 34 and sometimes the pain I felt as a child still resonates but I try to let that go! I'm too old to care anymore...

She'll be ok! Keep reminding her as she gets older that she's beautiful and that her ear makes her unique.

Keep it Touched,
Khloe
www.kgstyleblogs.com

Stefani said...

Annnd now I'm convinced we need to have cocktails :) Even if it requires a plane ride! Cohen was born with a growth on his ear that we had to have removed at six months. It was really hard for me at first, I felt like I had to explain it to everyone who looked at it. Oddly enough, it was even harder for me to deal with the surgery - I guess I felt like I was telling him he wasn't perfect as he was, and I wrestled with it a lot.

I understand the nervousness about teasing and about people looking, but she is beautiful and that is part of who she is. Hugs to you {again!}

http://derekandstefani.blogspot.com/2012/10/cohens-surgery.html

Stefani

h_esquire said...

My niece had an ear that stuck out farther than normal when she was born. My sister taped it back with medical tape and within 3 months you couldn't see a difference. Her doctor told her it would help the ear develop normally, with assistance. This is not an old wives tale or a friend of a friend. I saw the tape and I saw the difference :)

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