Tuesday, October 28, 2014

The Bully

Isabella loves school.  She loves her teacher.  She loves to learn.  She loves her friend.  What she does NOT like is the bully who sits at her table.

Lately she's been complaining about a kid who sits next to her...let's call him Fred.  So Fred has been pretty much harassing the people at his table.  He's called them losers, tattle tales, said he wouldn't be their friend if they told on him, and he even made up a song about a little boy that made him cry.  I tried to tell Isabella to ignore him, to tell him to stop, and to tell her teacher.  She wouldn't because she didn't want Fred to be upset with her.  She's kind and passive to a fault.

So I e-mailed the teacher and explained the situation and she changed Isabella's seat.

Well the next day Isabella comes home and says that Fred PUNCHED her in the stomach on the playground.  Punched.  In the stomach.  On the playground.

She was so sad because she didn't understand how her good friend could hurt her.  I wanted to tell her that her "friend" is a little tool, but I decided that it would be wiser to just tell her to stay away from him.  I also told her that if he hits her again to hit him back.  I don't care what your stance on that piece of advice is, I want my daughter to be able to defend herself.

I had a very long phone conversation with the teacher about Fred, Isabella, Fred's parents, and the situation.  She seemed like she was all on board with it and was calling his parents and informing the lunch aides of the situation.  We spoke for a long time and I felt good about the conversation.

Apparently whatever she said to Fred's parents really made an impact because there hasn't been another peep out of Isabella's mouth about Fred since.  I've followed up with the teacher and she hasn't seen any misbehavior in the class since.

See what happens when parents take responsibility and hold their children accountable for their action instead of becoming defensive and entitled?  Changes are made.

Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Cross Roads

I've been blogging here at Completely Eclipsed since I was about 15 weeks pregnant with Isabella.  You're talking almost 6 years!  That's a long ass time in the blogosphere.  I'm kind of at a crossroads with my writing, and have been for a little while.

I just don't know what else to say.  My passions are shifting.  My interests diverting.  I still love blogging, but motherhood isn't as dark and twisty for me as it used to be.  I've hit my stride, and while I stumble and fall, I know how to pick myself back up.

In all honesty, the thing in my life that I'm most inspired by right now is fitness.  I had initially said that I wanted to keep the focus of this blog on my life and my kids, but to be honest, that's not all that interesting right now and I've noticed my blog numbers consistently going down (yes I do check even though some article somewhere says I'm not supposed to).  It's easy to see why.  I haven't been engaging with readers because I'm just not all that interested in what I'm writing.

So I'm reevaluating my stance.  If nutrition, health, and fitness are my passion then I'm going to write about that.  There's no rule that says I can't switch niche's mid-stride just like there's no one forcing you to keep reading something that you're not interested in.

I don't want to give up the blog, but I don't want to pour energy into something that doesn't hold a lot of joy for me right now.  So I'm going to give it what I've got while I've got it and just kind of see where it leads.

Monday, October 20, 2014

Halloween Party (Kiddie Version)

Andy and I always host an adult Halloween party because Halloween is like our high holy time and we just love it!  So we figured that in addition to both working full time, having two children, one who is in both dance and gymnastics and another one who is a tiny terrorist, plus planning an adult Halloween party that we had just enough room on our overflowing plates for a kids Halloween party too (which is why there has been radio silence on this blog for a week).

I'm so glad we did it!  It was so much fun.  I invited all of Isabella's new friends from Kindergarten and I'm glad I got to meet the other mothers since I'm never able to drop off or pick up.

We ate:  

Spooky sandwiches (6 ft hero for the adults)
Dead man fingers (french fries)
Poison Punch
Chicken Gizzards (nuggets)
Cursed Crudite (veggies)

We played:

Lim-boo (Oriental Trading)
Pin-the-nose on the Jack-o-Lantern (Amazon)
Monster Sac racing (Party City)

Gotta love Halloween!

Tuesday, October 7, 2014

#21DayFix Review

So last week I completed my 21 Day Fix and I have to say that I was more than happy with the results!

Basically the 21 DF is a three week program that zones in on clean eating and portion control using these easy to use color coded tupperware.  It also has 30 minute exercise programs to help rev up your metabolism and burn calories.

The Workouts

Day 1: Total Body Cardio (cardio with weights)
Day 2: Upper (sculpts and tones those arms)
Day 3: Lower (also incorporates weights for maximum calorie burn)
Day 4: Pilates (really focuses on your core)
Day 5: Cardio (burns fat)
Day 6:  Dirty 30 (my favorite!  Total body sculpting)
Day 7: Yoga (stretch out those tired muscles)

Plus: 10 minute fix for abs for days you're really running short
Bonus:  Plyo Fix (get jumping)

The workout all came with a modifier and I loved that not all the people in the videos had cookie cutter bodies, all body types were represented.

The Containers

Green: Veggies
Purple: Fruits
Red: Protein
Yellow: Starches and Carbs
Blue: cheese/healthy fats/nuts
Orange: dressings

How It Works

You use some magical formula in the user guide to figure out how many calories you're allotted for the day and then that gives you the number of each container.  I had 3 greens, 2 purples, 4 reds, 2 yellows, one blue, two oranges, and 2 tsp.  I thought I would be starving, but it was a lot of food!

You're able to swap out a yellow for a treat (wine, chocolate, etc) three times a week...I might have cheated just a drop in the wine department!  I also had my coffee every day.

My Thoughts

I love this program.  It taught me a lot about my eating habits.  For example, I had a really hard time eating enough protein.  I struggled with that a lot.  I was also eating way too many sweets.  I didn't realize how often I was nibbling on sweets until they were severely restricted from my diet.

Biggest Challenge

The hardest thing for me was the planning.  I'm a meal planner, always have been, but it took me a week to get used to trying to tick off each food group in my meal planning.

Biggest Reward

I hit my goal weight in the second week and seriously toned up.

My Results

I lost 5.5 lbs and 5 inches.

If you want any information on the 21 Day Fix shoot me an e-mail at eclipsed823@aol.com or visit me at www.teambeachbody.com/MelissaGalileo

Why You're Special

Dear My First Born Child,

You're special.  You were the one who made me a mother.  The one who terrified me with how delicate you were and how fierce my love could be.  You were the one who taught me the meaning of the words "exhausted" and "worried".  I took pictures of everything you did and every outfit you wore.  You were the baby I spent hours researching about.  I wanted to do everything just perfect.  I spent close to $30 in pacifiers just to try to find one you would like (I never did).  You were the one who had me crying tears of frustration because you just would. not. sleep.  You're the one who took my breath away with every milestone.  Your first step, first word, first birthday party.  All of it was new and wondrous and exciting and scary.  There's something special about your first baby.

Dear My Second Born Child,

By the time you came around I was a seasoned mother, well versed in the art of "tired" and "freaked out."  I was way more relaxed about motherhood because I knew that as long as I loved you things would all fall into place.  Whereas your older sibling ate dinner at the table at meal times and only watched very limited educational TV shows, we tend to just throw food at you at random times during the day and you have your own Netflix account.  You also never got to be the only baby in our house, you've always had to share our time and our love, but trust me, little one, there's plenty to go around.  You're special because you taught me to slow down, how not to rush from one milestone to the next, but to really savor your sweet baby smell and the sound of your stomping toddler feet and your great big belly laugh.  You're special because you're my last little baby and I want to hold onto you for just as long as you'll let me.

Wednesday, October 1, 2014

Parent Society

 Come on and read all about the wonderous things going on in my dark and twisty mind over at Parent Society.

15 Reasons Why You're the Meanest Mom Ever - I bet you've been a big meanie!

What You Lose When You Become a Mom - It's not what you think swearsies.

I've been having a bit of writer's block as of late, but I'm trying to push through it.  What do my fellow writers do when there's not a lot to say?