Monday, December 22, 2014

iPhone Mommy

I'm addicted to my iPhone.  It's sad.  What's worse is my justification for it.  It's not like I spend all my time on it just perusing facebook, instagram and whatnot, although that is a big part of it, things with my Beachbody coaching biz are booming and I'm answering e-mails, checking in with clients, posting to facebook groups etc.  I love being a Beachbody coach, I'm hoping there comes a time when I can do it full time, but now is not that time, so I'm left juggling a full time job, 2 kids, a husband, and a household and all I can do is get sucked into my phone.

It makes me feel pretty shitty.  Because, you see, deep in my heart I know I need to put the damn phone down and have a face-to-face conversation with my husband.  I need to leave the phone upstairs so I can play a game of Candy Land undistracted.  I need to splash with Arya in the bath instead of playing Candy Crush.

It makes me feel like a terrible mother.  I don't want to be the iPhone mommy.  I want to be engaged and present and aware, but it's like a demon that sucks me in.  I give it to much power and fall into my excuses and reasons and justifications.  I know it's bad.  I know it's a problem and I know I'm going to stop it because everyone in this family deserves a full time mommy.

I also know that saying something without a plan is bullshit so here is my plan on how to limit use of the iPhone while still working a business that I love:

  • Take 5 minutes before I come into the house after work to get to any pressing matters that I couldn't get to while working/commuting.
  • Put the phone in another room from the time I get home to the time the kids are in bed.
  • Take 30 minutes after bedtime to write/post/respond to challengers then put the phone in another room
  • Right before bed take 5 minutes to answer any other e-mails or check in to accountability groups
  • On the weekends check my phone (for business or pleasure) only while drinking my coffee and the kids are playing.  
That's my right now plan.  Not my New Year's resolution.  Not my fresh start on Monday.  Right now.  Today.  


Madonna said...

I have given myself similar rules to cut back on being sucked into my phone. I also set reminders labeled "Black Out" so I put my phone down. While I am not running a business, my work comes home with me at night when it's busy or I have an approaching deadline. And on the social media front, because we are all guilty of it, it helps me focus on my own blessings instead of lusting after someone else's!!

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